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I wish I could have got to know my dead grandparents better, but I don't talk to my living ones enough anyway so I dunno.

I think it's best to just be yourself, if you're bored or annoyed try to find who else feels the same way, try to talk to your grandma about it. Be like "Grandma I sure do love you but this whole family deal bugs me. I'm sorry. I hope you feel better."

Try to talk honestly with her? Try to figure out what you'd really like to get out of the occasion.

I might be making assumptions here. Sorry if this is way off mark. Your grandma should know your concerned at the very least though. Even if you're not.