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You'll find that some of this may sound familiar to other advice/observations.
Young ladies want to "go out with"/"hang out with" guys who are deemed "safe" wtihin their realm of proximity. Thus, they often go out with co-workers, neighbors, classmates, and so forth.
They also date those who they see around a lot. If they go to shows and they always see you there, or if they go to bars and you hang at the same bars, then you are already in the realm of their proximity. Now, if they are really drunk all the time, (or if you don't stand out too much) then they may have never noticed you before, however. To put it more specifically young ladies generally like a "wild" guy, but one that is from within their "safety zone." (described above briefly)
What your sister means is that girls hook up with guys the same way that guys hook up with girls. Which is, to clarify, they hook up spontaneously on a night on the town. Young ladies will often laugh at a guy that asks them on a date or asks them for their phone number. Now, it's okay to ask for a number at the end of the night if you've been hanging with a girl and she has to go, and you've met her through some mutual friends and/or bar acquaintances. (This job calls for an extended family at the bar!) In that case, then, yes, do ask for the number and wait a couple of days before you call.
For the most part though, (& just like the guys), young women often do not ask for or want any serious thing. They want to have fun. Girls just want to have fun. And if it turns into being something, they'll let you know when and where it does.
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