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>>if you go back to Homer's the Odyssey, Odysseus is the one that cheats and his wife stays loyal and doesn't give in to the guys that were hitting on her. And then Odysseus DID return and killed them all. I guess women just changed their mind as to how devoted they can be to their husbands <<

No. It's because some men have learned that the same can be achieved in reverse.

Initially, women are attracted to men's seeming strength and indifference. They are attracted to all that makes a man masculine and strong. But then we hit a paradox. It's REALLY hard to be indifferent or harsh to a woman we love. We become soppy and even dependent on their love. And thus the woman is repelled.

Charles Bukowski once wrote about getting off a plane and seeing his girlfriend waiting ro greet him. He thinks 'God, I love her. But if I want to keep her I can never let her know.'

I have experienced this recently. Falling in love with what I can only describe as the most amazing woman I have ever met. I am nearly 40 years old and I can honestly say I have never had notions of settling down before. I began to tell her my feelings. Began to wait around for her. Stopped going out on the town quite so much.

She finished with me.

For weeks I poured my heart out and was met with utter coldness.

The minute I accepted her decision and began ignoring her she unravelled and started showing a glimmer that she was bothered.

And the battle continues. It's truly breaking my heart but the only chance I have is to remain cold and not let her see.