Are you cool with your gf/bf hanging out with opposite sex friends?
 

I apologize for saying "gf". It was a matter of necessity.

Are you ok with your significant other hanging out with opposite sex friends when you're not around?

If so, or if not, please explain.

I'm working on taking a position and need feedback.

i dont own anyone, they are not my property, relationships should not be about ownership.

nah dont care. she wont find anyone that gives her the kind of orgasms that i give to her on the reg.

even if you have concerns that this "friend" is acting predatory, you should still fall back on the trust you place in your partner. afterall, without trust, what's the point?

my wife can hang out with anyone she so chooses. I love and trust her implicitly.

ps: why not worry about the same sex too?

because there is no way pussy mashing can compare to my cock, innit

i thought we were here to treat everyone like shit
like an aids bacteria

you blindly assume that your girlfriend's girlfriend cares.

she doesn't. she has an even larger and more impressively skilled repertoire of satisfaction at her disposal.

I should know. she is me.

brb scissoring.

this

Re-read your own post, please. The answer is there.

I agree about the "no-ownership" thing completely.

But I can still not like something someone does, and if I don't, I can choose to remove myself from their company.

p.s. If your sig-oth is bisexual, or you suspect them of being, then obviously it would not be limited to opposite sex friendships.

Here is the way I see it:

If a guy is friends with your girl, and she's a hottie - chances are, he wants to fuck her. The key question in this scenario is whether or not she wants to fuck him as well. You have to trust the fact that your girlfriend cares about you enough to not screw around behind your back... and if she is committed to your relationship, chances are that she does. If you can't trust her commitment... why are you dating her in the first place?

You don't want to come off as insecure about this, it'll only make her more likely to cheat on you.

everybody wants to fuck everybody?

boy + girl alone usually = fucking
9 times out of 10

so the only females you know are prostitutes?

In my experience platonic friendship between men and women is almost impossible outside a professional setting (and even hard within one).

girl + guy alone usually = fucking. it is programmed into our beings.

If I had one (:()I'd probably don't give a shit..

The sort of people [men] I know who say this are usually repulsive, under-sexed social retards incapable of finding any meaningful sort of relationship with either sex. They are also often homophobic - because by that logic, every gay guy is not to be trusted because he just wants to fuck the straight guy. Inevitably the latter isn't the case because, as previously mentioned, the person is usually repulsive.

Anyway. The bottom line for me is that if you're comfortable enough with being an adult, and don't carry around social/ sexual anxieties, it's both easier to acquire sexual partners and easier to deal with not having sex with some people while still being close to them.

"friends" or "dudes trying to stick their cocks in her"?

because that's what you're asking, right?

im someone is overtly trying to fuck her and she puts up with it in front of you maybe she's waiting for you to provide boot to the head.

if she actually invites it, ha ha ha, oh, good luck with that.

ok i read your question but i don't know what you're really asking, you know?

my wife has male friends that generally fall into 2 categories: 1) dudes who are like brothers (fucking them would be gross), 2) gay men

when someone tries to put the moves on her she a) rejects them, b) informs me, then c) we laugh about it (she has very funny ways to tell people to fuck off). i mean really if you don't trust her what is the point.

I trust my lady wholeheartedly, but that cannot be said for some of my cohorts! I agree with the above post by Mr Expletive

I want to make violent love to each of you, one by one, as your bf/gf of the opposite and/or same sex lustily watches on while I penetrate your every cavity, ever so deeply.

that way, your bf/gf of the opposite and/or same sex will know, first hand, the pain you feel as they do the same (albeit with less abandon and more discretion).

right. enough talky talk. let's get to fuckin'.

too desperate, sweet peaches

you want to go first, don't you?

I'll be gentle because I can tell you need it that way.

WHO HURT YOU??????

I hang out with ex-boyfriends or people who claim to have a crush on me. It's fine, and I can always punch them if it isn't.

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I agree.

I don't have any female friends that I wouldn't probably bang if I wasn't attached and under the right circumstances.

baha!

exactly.

By 'exactly' I presume you mean 'this person has exactly the same incapacity to relate to humanity in anything approaching a normal/ healthy way'. Right?

ahaha

knox, you can hang out with anyone you like

i promise not to give you a black eye

Yeah knox - I promise I'll totally not eat your liver. PROMISE.

shame

I've never had a taste for foie gras.

it is kind of gross.

I'm very comfortable with it, but only because I think trust is important. Also, if someone is capable of shady behavior, the quickest way to find out is by allowing them to hang out with people of the opposite sex. not allowing them to, if they want to, will cause problems within itself. That's been my experience. I allow my girlfriend (and past girlfriends) to hang out with basically anyone they want, and I expect to be allowed the same in return. Of course, we are sexual creatures and thoughts will be there regardless. EVERYONE thinks about cheating....not doing so is what makes one great and trustworthy in my opinion.

trust = naive
nearly everyone is fucking around
no matter how secure you are
no matter how much perceived honesty

On some level, sure....but not allowing yr better half to visit friends will possibly create more problems in a relationship than if they were actually fucking around. I don't believe most fuck around, but it's rapidly getting to that point. An affair is the new taboo, seemingly. Whatever. Americans should adapt a more European outlook on relationships....not that cheating is OK, it's not.

beyond whether someone cheats or not, this discourse of "allowing" or "not allowing" is quite appalling. who gave anyone the right to "allow" someone to do anything?

Agree. Totally. Which is why problems are bound to come as a result of someone saying "I don't want you to hang out with them". Of course, like I always say, there are exceptions to every rule. I would prefer my girlfriend not hang out with a recent ex unless I am present, but even then it's not an "yr allowed" or "not allowed" sort of thing. it's one of those sort of things I consider a: at least they are being honest and telling me, and b: I should be allowed to do the same thing if the situation ever brings itself up. I don't believe in ownership of one human being by another. I don't care how much you love someone, you never "belong" to someone else. In the same regard, as soon as you think someone else belongs to you, the "relationship" has already failed. Trust and honesty are the key to most things.

Wow. Whoever s/he was, s/he really fucked you over, didn't she? I'm sorry.