no shit, i completely understand where you're coming from, but at the same time...when i get liquored up, i tend to talk a bit...to people who are equally liquored up, if that makes sense.

kindness.

An ability to drink lager and telling me to shut up.

Ditto.

Regaring physical appearance I prefer dark-haired girls and I don't like very big boobs.

I almost passed the test! If only I wasn't an ass sometimes.

Would you make an exception for Monica Belluci?:

She's sensual and far from ugly but I find her beauty a bit common actually, her personality's also a bit fake I think (she's very affected when she talks).

me too! I just don't smoke weed haha

emmaH and i would never work....

Well, I don't like the opposite sex so I'll just say what I look for in the same sex.

Physical:
Hair cannot be blonde or red. Occassionally, I'll make an exception to this rule.
Teeth must be straight and white. No crack teeth.
They must be CLEAN. Well dressed, cologne, nice skin, etc.
I like them to at least be somewhat tall.
I like them not to be stick-thin but they can't be fat. A little pudgy stomach and stuff is just fine.
I don't like men who shave their bodies. If I wanted to date a prissy little bitch I'd be straight.

Personality:
Has to listen to some decent music. At least one group we can agree on.
Artsy.
Open-minded.
I like to be able to discuss books and movies and things.
Must be intelligent.

That's different though, even I do that.

Someone who looks like a man. I don't care for personalities much.

a pulse.

That's not mandatory.

Word.

I think once you even BEGIN to make a generic list of criteria, you're fucked. Or not, as it were.

I personally think it's totally random.

*Edit: I only really ever "date" people when I'm in other countries. So perhaps they have to be foreign and easily discarded.

Just curious: Has anyone ever found the sort of person that they had been looking for?

I found her, yes. But getting them to like you is something different.

I'm so demanding!

Kindness, empathy, good communication skills, generosity, initiative ("let's try" rather than "let's wait and see").
All of them not too highly developed so I can be up to it.

Feels like second is the hardest to find, or maybe it improves with age? :rolleyes:

yes but it doesn't work that way. it's not like you go around with a laundry list & checking items off it. well some people may do that, i think they are fucked up in the head. it's more of a feeling that someone is righ, an intuition. that's why i didn't post in this thread originally, it seemed naive & silly. you can't possibly find someone who has every fucking trait you want-- besides, that's a form of narcissism.

now, having said that-- having found a "the right person" doesn't mean it's all done & your problems are over. there is A LOT of shit to be worked out. a couple's life without conflict is like a marriage between zombies. you always gotta be working at it or the thing dies-- people change, grow, evolve, and both partners need to adapt, adjust, or bust up. oh yeah i've been to hell & back.

now, if we're talking about "ideals", which don't exist in real life, only in dreams, here's my "ideal"




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ha ha ha, she doesn't exist!

I think i did, she's now with someone who works in an awful sub-athena lifestyle gift shop and likes Razorlight. What can you do?